In her interview for the Powered By Women Summit, Tanya Brown recounts her moving story and her road to recovery after experiencing her sister’s tragic death, which eventually led her to a mental breakdown and the need to receive professional help. She characteristically relates how she tried to please everybody and hide her grief, and how this caused her collapse. It is really inspiring how she managed to put the pieces back together and become a powerful speaker supporting abuse victims and helping others develop coping skills.
As Tanya knows only too well, you may feel that your personal power has been taken away if:
- You don’t like yourself.
- You don’t know what’s in your soul.
- You are not kind enough to others and to yourself.
- You don’t dedicate enough time to yourself; time that is essential for getting centered within yourself.
- You feel that everyday tasks are drudgery; you are not mindful in what you are doing.
Tanya continues with some invaluable advice on developing a healthy relationship with time, which will also improve your relationship with yourself and other important people in your life: You have the power to plan your calendar; make sure you allow enough time for yourself; time in which you can live moments of calmness and stillness. The ability of multitasking is highly valued today. However, sometimes, you may not be able to do it, and this is fine. (In a study, Students who engaged heavily in multitasking activities felt great, but their results were actually much worse than that of people who didn’t multitask).The most important thing is being mindful and truly present in everything that you do. Do one thing at a time, but put 100% of yourself into it.
A critical question you need to ask yourself is whether you are really committed to something or if you are simply interested in something. It is really important to know who you are. Then, you can identify your needs and evaluate whether an undertaking will enhance your life. You don’t need to accept every proposal set on the table. You also need to realize that you don’t need to make everyone happy and be agreeable to everyone. In this way, you can live authentically and establish a true and meaningful connection with yourself and people that matter. As Tanya also mentions, moving from lack of self-love to love is a great leap. You therefore need to take a small step every day and really commit to being kinder to yourself; liberating yourself from self-imposed pressures is of paramount importance.
Many of us live in a culture that pushes us to be productive at almost any cost .It is sad and frustrating that too much emphasis is laid on achieving results. At school, we were pressured to get top marks; our parents may have forced us to follow a particular professional direction because they considered that it would be a financially safe option. It is very encouraging that the young generation of women now has greater access to resources in order to make more informed decisions about their lives.
Listen to Tanya’s full interview here http://goo.gl/EzH9FA #powerfulwomen
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